An Atheists Perspective on Attending Church with a Religious Friend
Can an Atheist Attend Church with a Religious Friend?
Of course! Both friends I hope! would be respectful of the event and its other participants. The atheist friend can just skip over the parts they don't agree with. In my tradition, the Episcopal Church is all are welcome. It's a place where gender and belief are not barriers to full participation and enjoyment.
Attending Church Alone or With Friends
An atheist can attend a church with or without a religious or non-religious friend. I sometimes do so alone because I enjoy singing and a chat over coffee afterwards. The experience can be profoundly moving, regardless of one's beliefs.
Ultimately, an atheist has the freedom to do whatever they want. The church is a house of worship, a public building, and a space for those who wish to engage in spiritual practices. However, it is indeed a waste of time for an atheist if they do not believe in the figures worshiped there.
Attending Church for Special Events
I have attended weddings and funeral services in church because I have respect for other people's beliefs, even if I don't share them. These events can be an opportunity to show respect and support for friends and loved ones.
As someone who has been to churches, synagogues, mosques, Hindu temples, and Gurdwaras, I can attest that the experience varies widely. Gurdwaras are often the best as everyone is exceptionally friendly, and they always have some fantastic food laid out for everyone.
Benefits of Attending Church as an Atheist
Atheists can attend church all by themselves. Why would they need a religious friend? The environment is surprisingly accepting and inclusive. You can walk into any church, watch the people listen to the sermon, and even sing hymns. You won't burst into flames, angels won't show up and drag you out, and you won't be cursed. What prevents atheists from attending church is more a matter of personal comfort and belief than any external barrier.
Sometimes, attending church can be a family event. For instance, we go to baptisms, weddings, funerals, first communions, confirmations, midnight masses, etc. Even without belief in gods, the fellowship and witnessing special events in family members' lives can be meaningful.
Church Services and Accessibility
Most church services are open to the public and are usually posted online. You don't even need a “religious friend” to go with you. If you're unsure, check the church's website for information on upcoming services and events. The welcoming atmosphere of many churches can provide a unique and enriching experience for both religious and non-religious individuals.